Men want respect too

December 31, 2009One Comment

*Disclaimer: This post is a general reflection and does not relate to any single person I have dated.  For the most part, I have felt very respected in most of my relationships.

Today I stumbled onto a blog that was talking about the 5 things that guys fear most in dating.

The list was fairly generic with things like “You will turn crazy after pretending to be sane”.  One item however did stick out to my and was worth the read.

Fear #4: You Won’t Respect Him

A wise psychologist once wrote, “In a relationship, women want to be cherished and men want to be admired.” Men do want their partners to admire them. Not in a ticker-tape parade kind of way, but as a quiet nod of respect for what he does and has accomplished. We all know this on some primal level.

Now don’t get me wrong.  The last thing I or men like me want is a partner that you have to baby sit all the time.  In fact I would say some of us truly want a woman that we will respect as a true equal.  That said, something about be  a man makes you want to feel needed or appreciated.

I should say that the vast majority of women I surround myself with as friends understand this.  At the very least they understand that being an independent woman is about being self reliant, not about being stubborn.

To all you women out there that get what I am talking about, thank you!

1 comment to “Men want respect too”

  1. maya | February 4, 2010 | Permalink Reply

    “an independent woman is about being self reliant, not about being stubborn.”—i like that quote Julian, sadly, i have to admit that some woman, including me, sometimes slipped in that kinda mess..oh poor of my husband :( i have to give him a lil bit more “nod” from now on… :)

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